Marrying Outside The Community


There have been many articles written to celebrate the love two Muslims have found by marrying out of their race or cultural community. 

This is not one of them.

Yes finding love is to be celebrated and of course there is much benefit to the mixing of cultures and growth and diversity of the human race through it.

But my point is the fact that it has to be celebrated and written about is in itself a disgrace.

Let’s not bury our heads in the sand here , racism is rampant amongst our ummah! Every cultural community has it’s negative opinions, stereotypes and ranking of other races. 

Some communities create the illusion of inclusion by boldly boasting how their offspirng has married a (insert race of same skin colour here) as if it somehow makes them cosmopolitan and open-minded. But when the skin colours differ too much that’s when problems arise. Anyone at the extreme scales of black or white the racism alarm sounds at full blast and operation Disown Child is activated.

Other communities are even less accepting to the point where their child must marry someone from the exact same country, village and even family as them. Add to this the strange notion of caste which has crept into some areas of our ummah and you find a single woman (or man) given only 2 options: to marry their cousin or an unknown person from across the planet.

And I needn't remind you of the disgrace to our ummah that is "honour killing", an oxymoron if ever there were one.

Racism is rife across the globe and it wasn’t so long ago that a mixed race couple could even be arrested. But that isn’t us. Or rather it shouldn’t be us. As an ummah we take our example from the best of mankind and in theory marry people based on their character. But when we start choosing or rejecting on the basis of race first before anything else we are doing a great disservice to ourselves.

By all mean marry in the community for reasons of personal preference but not because one culture is deemed superior to any other.

Soraya Soobhany-Chohan